Could it be that today’s increased awareness about emotions, and our obsession with mental health issues, are actually causing **more** mental health issues? More people are doing therapy, but are those people potentially doing it wrong?
Therapist, counselor, and author Lori Gottlieb says that a lot of our culture’s approach to mental health is wrong.
In today’s podcast, we discuss what it takes to do therapy effectively. We discuss the prevalence of mental health content online and why that may be a bad thing. We talk about how people’s misunderstandings of vulnerability and boundaries can backfire. And we get into the effect social media might be having on this.
Enjoy.
00:00:00 Introduction 00:01:58 How /not/ to do therapy 00:03:31 The first thing you need to realize when in therapy 00:05:03 How therapy actually helps 00:08:55 “Unknowing” yourself 00:10:21 How to give advice 00:13:38 Disarming our defense mechanisms 00:15:56 You can’t change someone else 00:18:39 The stages of change 00:22:47 The ripple effects of change 00:24:02 Why some people don’t want you to change 00:25:49 Changing in moderation 00:27:29 Men and therapy 00:31:10 Your problems are not unique 00:33:41 Today’s mental health conundrum 00:38:34 Performative vs true vulnerability 00:42:14 What boundaries really are 00:43:13 You can’t cut everyone out of your life 00:45:11 The No. 1 quality to look for in a romantic partner 00:47:21 Therapy that isn’t working 00:48:25 Therapy shouldn’t be forever 00:49:49 Signs you should stop therapy 00:50:42 How the success of Lori’s book changed her practice 00:53:39 What’s next for Lori
Lori Gottlieb is a therapist, a couples counselor, and a bestselling author of the mega-hit “Maybe You Should Talk To Someone” which has sold over 2 million copies worldwide.
